Thank you for becoming a member of the Cosmic Fire community!
We are committed to creating a sacred, creative common space with you. By participating in the Cosmic Fire forum, circles, classes, or any other community space here, you agree to abide by the following guidelines. Please review them and let us know if you have any questions.
Code of Conduct
These guidelines apply to all Cosmic Fire members across all membership levels.
1. Membership in Cosmic Fire is a privilege. The site administrators reserve the right to cancel anyone's membership at any time. We are only likely to take this step if we believe your presence is not / is no longer a vibrational match for the community. That being said, any toxic or harmful behavior – including but not limited to personal attacks, hate speech, libel, slander, illegal or malicious behavior – will constitute grounds for eviction from the community spaces.
2. Conflict Reporting & Resolution. If you feel someone has violated your privacy, violated your consent boundary, or has directed inappropriate comments or attention at you, please let that person know. If you are unable to resolve the issue one-on-one, or if you don’t feel able to resolve the issue directly with the other member, please reach out to the forum moderator and/or lead facilitators immediately.
If you believe a member is acting in a dangerous or hurtful fashion or is creating an unhealthy atmosphere, please reach out to the forum moderator and/or lead facilitators immediately.
The Cosmic Fire forums are only viewable by Cosmic Fire members.
"The first rule of the Forum is, you do not talk about the Forum!"
In order to unlock the massive power of our group intention, it's really important that each of us feels confident in the confidential nature of the space to reveal our own souls on the forum and on any group calls.
DO NOT SHARE personal information about anyone in the forums/circles/classes with anyone outside of the forums/circles/classes, without the member's express permission.
Sharing a member’s personal information or anecdotal information that results in a member’s privacy being violated will be grounds for immediate membership cancellation.
Personal information includes who is here and what they share. Please honor the confidentiality of the forum/circle/class to keep our healing/learning/sharing spaces private and sacred for all members.
Posting / Sharing Guidelines
When posting in the forum or sharing on a call, please remember the injunction in the Hippocratic Oath to "abstain from doing harm." We each have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives. What we need from our community is:
To be seen and accepted for who we are.
To have a safe space where we can heal from old trauma, deprogram ourselves from limiting beliefs, and share our creative ideas.
Inspiration. This includes encouragement and kindness.
When posting on the forum or participating in live calls, please honor participants' consent boundaries by observing these basic guidelines:
1. Don’t give advice or instruction. This is the “no cross talk” guideline that is foundational to recovery groups. See specific examples below of helpful vs. non-helpful communication.
Far more effective than giving another participant advice is opening your own heart and validating their experience by sharing your own experience.
2. Don’t offer criticism of another member’s creative work unless that member has specifically invited you to do so.
3. Do not give psychic readings to, or do energy work for, anyone who has not explicitly asked you to do so.
If you want to give another member your help through prayers, a healing, a reading, or anything of the sort, reach out to the member and get their permission first.
If you find yourself feeling compelled to help in the ways described above, take a moment to reflect on what is coming up for you and how you can work with that within your own psyche.
4. When posting or sharing, be aware of the emotional space you are sharing from.
Posting from a grounded, centered space within yourself will benefit you and the rest of us much more than using the forum as a place to vent emotions you don't want to feel.
We all get triggered and we all go through difficult times. It's OK to share your experiences, including the hard, heavy stuff. But don't dump your emotions on the community. Work through your stuff, ask for help if you need it, and then share.
Thank you for reading and for keeping our shared space clear and grounded in love. If you have comments or suggestions for the community guidelines, or anything else for that matter, we'd love to hear all about it. It takes a community to build a community space!
Examples of How to Share or Respond in Ways That Create a Positive Environment for All
Example: Someone posts a new topic saying she can mentally see a parental drama that keeps playing out in her adult life and sabotaging her relationships, but she can't seem to connect to it in a way that enables her to move through it.
These are NOT helpful responses:
1. "You should do X; that always works for me"
2. "You should listen to / watch / read ______ by (Deepak Chopra, Liz Gilbert, Donald Trump).”
3. "It sounds like you're not really be honest with yourself about what happened in your family of origin."
4. "You know, whenever I have a problem like that I just: give it to the Lord / do two hours of hot yoga / dedicate an hour of compassion meditation to all the suffering creatures in the world."
The first and last answers are coming from a "one-up" position: The use of should in the first answer, and the humble-brag in the last answer both convey the message: "I'm more advanced than you and I know what's best for you."
Meeting someone’s vulnerability with an air of moral superiority is a sure-fire way to discourage open communication.
Response #2 probably comes from a genuine desire to be helpful. But (a) the respondent is “shoulding” on the poster; (b) the respondent is assuming that the poster hasn’t already read those books; and (c) the respondent is making the assumption that what worked for them must also work for others.
Response #3 is shaming and blaming: "If you had more courage, you would admit you were abused, etc."
Responses that create healing space for all:
2. Validating the poster’s experience and offering encouragement
3. Being vulnerable and sharing your own experience
"Wow, I can understand about parent stuff sabotaging adult relationships. My dad abused me when I was young and it has taken a long time for me to feel like I'm even starting to understand what intimacy is and be available for it in my relationship."
Validating and encouraging
“I’m sorry to hear that you feel stuck in that self-sabotage pattern! We all have some form of that from childhood, right? But it sounds like you’re really committed to working through it so I know you’re going to heal this!”
Vulnerability: sharing your experience
If you feel you can help the person who shared their issue because you have found a way of working through a similar issue, share your own experience. (As opposed to telling them what to do.)
"Wow, I can understand that. I really had a hard time feeling my anger in my body about the way my dad abused me. I had all of this anger against my dad that was so deep down I didn’t even know was in me. I kept attracting angry relationship partners – my relationships were horrible. And then one day I realized I was just as angry as they were.
"Luckily, a friend told me about inner child work and I started on this journey to learning how to express my anger in healthy ways. What I learned is that when I allow my inner child to feel angry, I don't need to bring it into my relationship. I can't say I remember to do this every time I get triggered, but the more I do this the better my relationship gets. I know that if you keep working on this issue, you'll find what works for you!"
"PS - PM me if you want to talk more about the inner child stuff, or just trade stories!"
Thank you for reading and helping to maintain a safe and powerful co-creative healing space here at Cosmic Fire. We're so grateful for your contribution!
Love and Gratitude,
DK "Kairos" and Tatiana "Phoenix"